All members of my family are living in the States except me because I decided early in life that I will study in Singapore, hence, I always try to revisit them in L.A. on a yearly basis.
It’s taken me over 30 years to fully understand what I want to do in life. It has certainly not been easy because I want to do soooooo many things. Some part of me I want to have a simple life, be a full-time mum to four children (lol) and cook every day. Some part of me I’m insulted AF that my previous partner of over 10 years didn’t bother to propose a wedding? I mean, do I not deserve that after I give my youth, love, and loyalty? I’m certainly not going to beg for a wedding proposal; especially I’ve added values in my life which can be leverage later. Haha!
“I pay my own bills and I pay my own rent ‘cause I’m indepe-, independent I buy my own rings, and I do my things’
– Bebe Rexa, Bad Bitch.
In 2020, I became fearless 50x that I was many years ago. At the beginning of my year, I asked myself every day, Okay, Queen Kath what do you want to do? Where do you want to live? How do you want to be loved? What are your priorities? I convince myself that I will be the best version of myself this year.
I know that I can live my life to the fullest because I’ve read so many inspirational stories on Forbes Women magazine (lol) and I want to have my story written someday. Any publicist may find my perspectives interesting because I’m a strong, unbothered and opinionated woman like those women they featured on page 1. I have some pretty strong opinions about what’s important in life: the best colour shades of lipstick, where to buy bronzy spray tan you will look like Beyoncé, workout tips how to have sexy hips without looking like Kim Kardashian and how to build a PC briefcase, to name a few things.
In my unpopular opinion, there’s nothing more boring than people who are self-righteous and they take themselves way too seriously (I live in Singapore, one of the busiest cities in the world, so I should know).
I know that despite my education and skills, because of my strong personality I will not be featured on Bloomberg because I don’t have a filter when I talk. I say what I need to say, but I do know some things. Like, I can make a business successful and I’m good at advising founders how to scale their startup And no, I’m not just nomading my work in a jungle in Bali because it’s trendy on Instagram, we have an actual office I just like the brand Startup Nomad because why not?
This year I want to rent a desk at a co-working space to have a connection with the startup community whilst I am having free decaf coffee latte at WeWork. It will give me sense of community and bonds with innovative founders. Though I’m not going to have deep conversation over coffee with anyone for their exit strategy (M&A/IPO) because I will charge you for that but I don’t mind to share the filter apps I use for my Instagram and where to get discounts when you travel in the States (and I can help with that too!).
No matter how you feel about my blog posts, I own my truth. And I’m happy living with it and I will continue to glow whether that means I will add more highlighters in my make-up collection, take Japanese collagen for anti-aging or to look fresh after sex with my bae. I embrace my basicness and my new norm.
I’m happy the way things are in Singapore, my perfect day means not about winning a deal in venture capital but a simple Netflix and Chill on my pink bed whilst watching “Silicon Valley” series with salted caramel Ben & Jerry’s ice-cream. It doesn’t make me less cool of a dude who spends his day coding and who tells everyone how busy he is on Facebook (which sounds boring AF, by the way). Personally, I appreciate people who are unbothered on social media and LinkedIn regardless of the number of likes they receive on their posts because honestly who cares about post likes? Lol
So, while I’m being basic in Singapore doing normal stuff like any foreigners bred in the Island will do I enjoy having a vacation in Los Angeles with my sister who turned as a business partner by trust and bestie by no choice (don’t tell mum).
My sisters and I studied in an all-girls Catholic school in Manila, but Aisha and I were never the conservative students, we were also not the “typical” teenagers who followed all the rules run by the nuns. In fact, I skipped religious subject and I pretended to my parents I was doing my homework in the living room (never really worked out, my mum caught me many times). But no matter how troublesome I was at 13, I was the student council president and also the Ms. High school for two consecutive years (thanks to our principal and voters, lol). I ran a pretty kick-ass campaign on the campus too and I always rise up issues in the student council that is important to discuss. Because I was serious at 13 lol but not as intense as Greta Thunberg. 🙂
When I celebrated my sixteen birthday, my family throw a fancy party at Tiera Pura homes with full course buffet, a band of four, and YES even videographers. I wore a lovely long gown for the first time and I thought for a moment I was a queen. My mother told me I can invite 40 guests because we are on the budget. Me being me, I invited everyone I know at school, people I met at parties at Thomas Morato and my friends’ friends. I even invited the baristas at Brewing Point Cafe near our house. Over 60 people turned out at my party and half of them are young gentlemen who brought me gifts and flowers. My mum asked me how the hell I know them all and I said, I’m just being social but none of the guests is my boyfriend. They are all just friends. Haha! My mother was worried she prayed to Jesus Christ everyday I won’t get married early. It was noted indeed.
I’ve been called either “Extra Kath” or “Sweetheart” in the family for as long as I can remember – and I take that nickname as a compliment because it defines my personality that I can be outspoken and unafraid to do things but also at the same time I don’t allow the bitterness of the world take my sweetness from me. Lol
There was also one time, a student complained of why I am the school muse for two years (I mean, is that even a question? Lol) she complained to the teachers that I steal her attention in the class. I legit can’t help it because I’m a loving friend to everyone and I support others to shine before me. Hence, whenever there is a voting campaign at school, I win their hearts.
But as I get older, I don’t focus on my physical appearance I focus on more important things like updating this blog and paying my bills. I have transferred the crown to my younger sister who is the most beautiful in the family. She has the loveliest hazel brown eyes (no contact lens) and beautiful features. She is also multi-talented – she can sing like Adele, paint-like Heart Evangelista and dance like Latina. I hope she can keep it up at 50 like JLO.
Not many people know that despite our Eurasian look and firmed booty we work so hard at the gym, because of our opinionated and strong personality, my sister and I had a hard time finding true love for many years. And you know what? We don’t give a fuck. Lol we are totally okay with that because life is easier without a man to worry about.
However, as I get older (damn aging changed my perspectives) I learned to have a partner in life will make me happier. I just hope I can maintain a loving relationship because my boss bitch attitude may show up at any time without a warning notice.
So, whenever I need a break from work in Singapore I travel to Los Angeles to bond with my sister. Of course, I’m the kindest sister and I treat her so good she will never forget. One early morning I “politely” asked her to drive me around L.A. to have Mexican tacos. Was she hesitated? Of course not I pulled her out of the bed and she drives us to the Mexican street for legit taco in her pajama.
Side note: we went to a shopping mall and bought beauty products in our pjs. We felt insanely cool, like we belonged in L.A., a place where people don’t give AF what you wear.
Mexican food is good I specially love beef tacos with guacamole sauce. My sister knows all Mexican stuff from food, fashion, and latino rap to their attitude. She said, I’ve dated a Mexican dude before and he is good looking but he has bad temper yo. Anyhow, the taco was the highlight of our relationship.
It seems fine to me. 😉
That day we took a lot of photos together and recorded our dance as if we were filming a music video for MTV. We are two professional grown up women if you thought what we did was lame, that’s probably because you don’t bond with your siblings like we do. Lol
In my last night in L.A., I woke up from a nap with red flowers in the room, perfumes from Victoria Secrets and a written note from Aisha. That one breakthrough moment gave me the confidence I needed to keep doing in my career because I have a family that are inspired of what I do. I told myself that time, “Kath, you can’t screw up your life…your sister looks up to you.”